BDSM is well enough understood in modern times to constitute numerous articles, informative descriptions and photographs over the internet. Whilst hardly suggesting some kind of global acceptance of the phenomenon, it at least presents a healthy, vibrant culture – a community of like-minds. After several hours of internet research, it was one page in particular that stood out as quite exceptional, and particularly interesting in relation to Unleashed.
Life of a Slave is a hyper-detailed identity performance of a gay-BDSM relationship. Its main focus is a journal, an all-inclusive account of the slave’s life including commutes to work, television shows watched, and days since last ejaculation. The complete contract of the slave’s voluntary submission is available for viewing, and a 3,000 word account of the slave’s progress towards this way this of living.
Two things are particularly striking about this particular site, the first being the site’s personal performance. 21st century tolerance has certainly improved the number of outward manifestations of sexual preference, and personal profiles in the instance of BDSM are not unusual, but complete openness is still a rarity. ‘Slave Matt’ has a whole page devoted to a remarkably thorough personal description, including quantity of teeth, pubic hair,scars, allergies and lengthy detail on personal temperament (humility,adaptability, loyalty) and experience; yet his true identity always remains hidden. This exhaustive presentation expresses total confidence and understanding of one’s own identity and sexual behaviour, but a lingering reluctance to make this public – perhaps for risk of social stigmatisation.
The second thing that strikes me is the almost obsessive documenting of everyday routines. There is nothing especially unusual about a man in an office job engaging in BDSM, but the almost daily accounts of routine mundanities suggest an intentional, or at least proposed correlation between the boredom of normal life and the excitement of BDSM. This theme is closely related to Unleashed - a chasm exists between day-to-day boredom and submissive sexual thrill, and the latter prompts the character to seek the former as a form of escapism.
Read about Slave Matt here! www.lifeofaslave.org